5 Ways To Love Your Wife According To God’s Word
“Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” – Colossians 3:19
Aside from God, your wife should be the most precious person in your life and you should make sure that she feels your love and care for her all the time. And, this Bible passage is one of the commandments of God that you should fulfill as a husband — to express your love to her and to keep your marriage work all the time. However, showing your love can be a little bit challenging, so the Bible gave us a pattern on how to show and express your love to your wife according to the Word of God.
Here are some ways to make your wife feel happy, loved, cherished and important.
Provide for her.
“Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” – 1 Timothy 5:8
As the head of your family, you should make sure that you meet your family’s needs. Look for ways to provide for your family and do everything to give their necessary needs such as shelter, food and clothing. “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” – 1 Corinthians 11:3. Also, support your wife’s emotional and spiritual needs by leading her to the Lord. Be there when she needs you the most — manifest the traits of Godly husband, pay attention to her needs, comfort her, give her a helping hand and a crying shoulder. “For if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?” – 1 Timothy 3:5
Be faithful to her.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” – Hebrews 13:4
Don’t let your guard down and avoid any form of temptation that will ruin your marriage such as lustful, nasty thoughts or sexual immorality. Build a relationship with God and ask Him to protect you from evil. Pray to God to help you make a good decision and to be faithful to your wife always. Wear your wedding ring always and honor your wedding vows to her all the time. “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.” – Proverbs 5:18-19. Treat her like a queen and only have eyes for her. “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” – Matthew 5:28
Spend quality time together.
“When a man is newly married, he shall not go out with the army or be liable for any other public duty. He shall be free at home one year to be happy with his wife whom he has taken.” – Deuteronomy 24:5
Take your wife on a romantic date or set up a fancy dinner date at home where you can enjoy your time together. Watch movies in your bedroom, sit and talk about your couple goals, reminisce about your love to each other, have a deep conversation or engage in some activities that Godly couples do. “The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.” – 1 Corinthians 7:3. You can also help your wife and do some household chores such as doing the laundry, washing the dishes or decorating your home for Christmas. “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.” – Ecclesiastes 9:9
Affirm your love for her.
“How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much better is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!” – Song of Solomon 4:10
Affirming your love to your wife is vital to keep your marriage healthy and alive. So, express your love to your spouse by complimenting her or by saying, “I love you!”, “You’re beautiful.” or “I am thankful to God for having you.”. Write a meaningful card for her and gave her flowers even without occasion. “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” – 1 Peter 3:7. Tell her how much you appreciate her and say it more often or say it aloud. This gesture will surely make your wife feel valued and loved. “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women have done excellently,but you surpass them all.” – Proverbs 31:28-29.
Show some affection.
Touch, kiss, hug, hold her hand in public and surprise her with gifts. “Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.” – Romans 12:10. Speak well of her in front of your family and friends; and don’t let her feel that she is taken for granted. Make everyone know how much you love your wife and how blessed you are to have her. “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” – Proverbs 18:22.
Always remember that your marriage is for keeps and always have a mindset that your marriage is permanent. So, let God be the center of your marriage, serve Him and commit your relationship to Him. “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.” – Psalm 37:5