6 Dating Advice for Christian Youth
Dating is a very trendy topic all over the internet and you can find many opinions and advice about it. However, as a Christian, God sends us some advice, warnings and commandments through the Bible — to be our pattern and guide in all aspects of our life including dating.
Make God your priority.
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” – Matthew 6:33
When you make God your priority in life and when you please Him — He will bless you with the things that you can’t imagine and He will also lead you to the right path. He will give you whatever you ask including your soulmate. Affirm your love to God and strengthen your relationship with Him before others. “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” – Mark 12:30-31. Make sure to attend Sunday services or Bible studies first before your date and serve the Lord together. And, let God control your lives and your relationship with one another. “The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him.” – Psalm 28:7
Do not date an unbeliever.
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” – 2 Corinthians 6:14
Though it is clearly written in the Bible, some of the Christian youth did not think highly of this command of God and they choose to date a non-believer that keeps them away from the presence of God. So, to avoid this common mistake, choose someone who has the same faith as yours. “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.” – Hebrews 11:6. Date someone who has a strong personal relationship with God — he/she should love God first before anyone else and for sure, your relationship will work.Thus, dating an unbeliever is an act of rebellion to God.
Follow God’s Will in your life.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” – Romans 12:2
Follow God’s will in your life and obey His Word for this is right. Avoid one-on-one dates with your partner that will tempt you to do a sinful act that God hates. Date in groups or with other godly couples. Keep yourselves pure and undefiled before marriage. Living together is trendy nowadays, but as a Christian you should not do this thing — it is a sin against God and it will ruin the will of God in your lives. “Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” – 2 Timothy 2:22
Date when you are ready to get married.
“Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” – 1 Corinthians 7:8-9
As a Christian, we should know the difference between godly dating and worldly dating; and we should value what God has taught us regarding this matter. If you are not ready to get married yet, don’t waste your time dating because it is pointless and it will make your life complicated. Thus, if you can’t control yourselves from doing things that may lead to disobey the Will of God, it is better to get married than to do this sinful thing that the Lord hates. “You are to abstain from food sacrificed to idols, from blood, from the meat of strangled animals and from sexual immorality. You will do well to avoid these things. Farewell.” – Acts 15:29
Grow together in Christ and let God make your relationship successful.
“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” – James 4:8
Engage in some activities that godly couples do such as attending a youth ministry service or projects, Bible studies, volunteering in your community or church, reading a devotional book, spending time with the other godly couples or by starting a goal guide for couples to uncover your best relationship goals — doing these activities are beneficial for your relationship and it will bring you closer to God. “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” – Hebrews 4:16
Pray for each other and ask God for guidance and wisdom.
Talk to God, kneel down and pray with one another — ask God for wisdom and guidance in your relationship. “I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better.” – Ephesians 1:17. Praying for someone is an act of love — it is an amazing thing that you can do for your loved ones. So, keep them in your prayers and ask God to give them the desires of their hearts, protection, strength and wisdom every day. “I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong.” – Ephesians 3:16-17
Also, God wants to have a healthy and godly relationship with our opposite sex through obeying His Word. He wants to protect us from doing things that will hinder His blessings and ruin our relationship with Him. Thus, we are precious to Him and he wants us to be with the person who manifested His Ways and love for us.