How To Improve Your Relationship With Your Grown-Up Children
“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.” – Psalm 127:3
Having a close relationship with your grown-up children seems to be hard and complicated. They are busy exploring and figuring out their own lives and sometimes seeing our children growing apart give us heartache. But, don’t be discouraged because there are still ways to have a close and healthy relationship with your grown-up children. So, just take extra effort and let these tips help you to relive your connection with your children.
Let God lead you to be a better parent.
“I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.” – 3 John 1:4
To be a better parent, we should be led by God and His Word. So, put God first and ask for His guidance by reading the Bible and praying unceasingly. Go to church and invite your children to go with you regularly. Remind them that as a Christian, we all have a responsibility to God and let this time with the Lord bring you closer together. “But seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” – Matthew 6:33
Show some love and affection.
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.” – 1 John 4:7
We all love our children, but sometimes we forget to show them our love and affection. Send them cards to remind them how much you care and love them. Visit them in their home and spend quality time with them — bring their favorite dish, surprise them with gifts or do some activities together. Also, you can give them a tote bag filled with their favorite childhood snacks or goodies. Hug and kiss them, talk to them, reminisce about their childhood days and let them know how much you cherish them. Be vocal with your feelings and enjoy your time together.
Try to step in their shoes when they are asking for advice.
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” – Ephesians 6:4
As a parent and older adults, we’ve gone through many things in life, such as heartbreak and failure. So, try to step into their shoes before giving your advice and opinions. Be very careful with your words and don’t curse or say harsh things to them. Explain your thoughts in a way that they can understand better. Deal with them with love, compassion, kindness, patience, gentleness and always have self-control. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1
Remember, no matter how many children you have and what their age, you are still their parent and no one can replace that. So, nourish them with love, guide them with God’s Way and let them see the Glory of God shine through you.