4 Ways to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Mother in Law
“Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” – Exodus 20:12
This biblical passage tells us to honor our parents, including our in-laws. After marrying the love of your life, you have to deal with a woman who gave birth to your spouse. However, getting along with your mother-in-law is a daunting challenge. But don’t worry; here are some tips to have a healthy relationship with each other.
#1. Keep them in your prayers
“If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” – Matthew 21:22
Always include them in your prayer regularly and ask God for guidance, protection and to give you the strength to love her unconditionally. “I want the men everywhere to pray. Men who lift their hands in prayer must be devoted to God and pleasing to him. They must be men who keep themselves from getting angry and having arguments.” – I Timothy 2:8. If she is an unbeliever, begin to pray for her salvation and pray that God will open her heart to believe the Gospel.
#2. Love them unconditionally
“Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.” -Romans 12:10
One of the easiest ways to get along with your mother-in-law is to love her as your own mother or family. Make them feel special in all aspects of your life–be affectionate to her. Invite them to dinner, vacation and in other family gatherings. Greet them on her birthday and shower her with gifts like jewelry, her favorite tea with mug, flowers, handbag or a medical alert device that has the ability to monitor her vitals.
#3. Communicate with them
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29
Talk and respond to her with a kind and polite manner. Always stay in touch with them, call her once in a while and tell how much you appreciate and love her. Also, find ways to cope with your differences. Deal with your issues and forgive them quickly. “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” – Matthew 6:14-15
#4. Spend quality time together
“How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity!” – Psalm 133:1
Do your best to make your mother-in-law happy and build a personal relationship with her. Finding your common interest is a great way to spend quality time. Engage in some activities together like painting, sewing, cooking, baking, gardening, Bible journaling, etc. Enjoy her company by taking her to a spa and salon date with you or pamper her at home using her favorite skin care products. Include her in your family vacations and cherish your time together.
Keep in mind that your mother-in-law is your spouse’s mother, thus give them the love and respect due to them as your own mother to create a happier and Godly home. Remain humble and avoid any kind of conflict. “Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy…” – Hebrews 12:12